How to be more Considerate of Others: In today’s world, ask anyone what holds the most value to them in a relationship; common answers would be – commitment, trust, love, etc.
But considerateness might be the most underestimated value in this generation.
Honestly, how often do we think about being considerate towards others and value their emotions?
Actually, being considerate is what keeps a relationship smooth and healthy.
What is being considerate?
It is merely following the next person in mind while you take action.
It is doing things for others, even if it’s something trivial.
“Considerate” is often mistaken with “civil,” civil is what is expected from anyone, and considerate is putting more effort into showing sensitivity and sympathy, putting a smile where actually intend to, and not compelling.
Sometimes we seem to forget how to be more considerate of others.
Most people would claim that the art of being considerate is long gone.
Take a look around, people have become more obsessed with themselves, and at the cost of losing the realization of why we need to be considerate of others and why it is important.
But it’s not all over yet – there’s still some hope.
We can still change this mindset and work on it.
Below are seven ways on how to be more considerate of others, try to check if you are already practicing one:
7 ways to be more Considerate of Others:
- Listen Closely:
When the other person is sharing something with you, be it experiences, ideas, stories – it means you are essential to them.
Show them that it fascinates you by inputting your opinion; try to respond when it’s appropriate.
Some people just don’t let the next person finish, learn to make a response when they are done.
Interrupting a person while talking is a real bummer.
- Practice Honesty with Delicacy:
When we are speaking, we should keep in mind how to arrange our phrases.
People who are considerate think about their choice of words, whether it’s going to offend the next person.
Most people nowadays value honesty and appreciate it when the truth is spoken.
But the wrong words can sometimes offend others.
Think this through – Instead of telling, “It was wrong of you,” we can say, “Better luck next time.”
It’s true that even if we are right, sometimes our words can unpleasantly hurt others.
- Respect their Manners:
People who are considerate mind their manners more often.
There are simple etiquettes you can learn, for example – chewing with your mouth closed, listening to someone while they are talking, etc.
Try not to talk when your mouth’s full, don’t litter waste here and there – an increasing number of manners keep adding to the list. What will happen if you do the opposite?
Well, people would take it as “utterly disrespectful” or careless.
Ask yourself, who does not like people who are well-mannered and well-behaved? I am sure you do too.
- Consider other People’s Time:
Nowadays, it has turned an absolute habit of ours to lie constantly, even for the tiniest of matters.
For example – to our loved ones about our whereabouts to cancel any sort of plans or worse to our bosses or colleagues.
Certainly, we try to avoid our time being wasted, and it is only logical if we do not repeat this with others too.
We should not make someone wait for a long time.
Most people don’t get that, not only both of your times are wasted, but by doing so, you are losing your respect from the other person.
Just imagine, what happens if someone tried to pull a similar act with you? Wouldn’t you be at least a bit offended?
- Anticipate Their Loved one’s Needs:
People merely acknowledge the basic rule of being considerate- planning your loved ones need way ahead of time.
You can also plan a little surprise for them from time to time, which will show how much you care.
Undoubtedly, foreseeing other people’s needs will bring you closer to them; also, you’ll be a step nearer towards being considerate.
- Empathize Before Judging:
It is so easy to judge someone or make an assumption about their character by merely hearing a few things from others.
Making a judgment without considering the good and bad, without seeing the real, whole picture depicts immaturity, and being immature does not suit a person who is considerate of others, or at least who is learning to be more considerate of others.
Think about why someone is behaving this way, or why is he or she reacting unnecessarily?
Learn to empathize and examine the back story.
Jumping straight to the judgment ruins every relationship at some stage.
- Apologize when it is warranted:
Have you ever felt that saying this simple word – “sorry” is too complicated sometimes?
When we do mess up things and others are hurt, it’s okay to apologize.
It’s not always easy to keep everything in mind, perhaps the lack of courtesy or forgetting to consider how the next person would feel might occur.
In such situations, it’s always better to step up and tell them you’re sorry.
Remember, “sorry” does not represent weakness; admitting your faults is a type of strength that many people lack.
Nutshell of the Article:
Considerateness is a wonderful gift, which most people are not blessed with.
But anyone can easily learn it if they want to.
We can train our minds to think this way – “More of others, and less of me.”
Being thoughtful in our actions is what makes us considerate.
What have you done today in becoming a more thoughtful and kinder version of yourself?